Real Modern Man

Because if you aren't taking your time with her, she will take your time from you.

And you won't like it.

There are no exceptions.

When you accept a woman into your life, when you decide you want to have a relationship with a woman, when you choose her for a relationship, you must ensure that you have a chosen a woman that you can spend your time with.

When you choose a woman for a relationship, you have chosen a relationship where she expects you to lead. You must lead. If you do not, you are implicitly abrogating your contract with her. Expect drama. Lots of drama.

Make her feel

It's really important that when you spend time with a woman, she feels that you are taking your time with her on purpose. That you aren't just wasting time with her. That when you are with her, it's because you want to be with her, not because it's what you are supposed to be doing, especially, not because you don't have anything else to do. What she craves is feeling your engaged, masculine presence. Do not short change her.

Masculine Presence

In a relationship with a woman, masculine presence is that emotional capacity to accept with equanimity, even cheer, what may appear to be random, passionate, possibly radical changes in your woman's emotional state. The ability to accept, without judgement, that what she says, may not be what she means. The ability to overlook her words and accept her pain. The ability to stand in the way of the storm, as a rock draws the violence of the wind, the violence of the wave. Standing without falling. Without being sucked into her emotional turbulence, such that you are both cast adrift in her furies.

Long term compatibility

On the other hand, one measure of a woman's potential for long term compatibility is whether she requires your presence all the time. A man's attention is a precious thing, not to be squandered. Think carefully about making a commitment to a woman who thinks nothing of wasting your time.